Archive for March, 2013

Grace–Permanently

GraceTat

And here’s something else new for February!  Look familiar?  A month ago, I posted a pic of the word that is my focus for 2013.   Grace.    I wrote it down, stared at it…and wanted to make it a permanent part of my life–a part of who I am and what I’m known for.  So I had it scratched into my skin with ink.  It hurt a little, but I’m really happy with it, and it’s original, it’s mine, no one else has anything just like it. It’s permanent.

I’ve always been a conservative person—not to the extreme like I’ve seen on some reality tv, but conservative–believing strongly in right and wrong and absolute truth.  This conservative nature can lead to a judgmental attitude.   I don’t want to be known for that attitude.  I want to be known as someone who loves and accepts people exactly where they are.

Perfectly legit concept, right? So why a tattoo? It’s a lil bit of irony I suppose.  There was a specific time that I did not show grace to someone really important to me. So, its sort of my way of making amends.  Admitting I was wrong.

When my firstborn was 18 (just last year), he decided to get a tattoo.  Actually, he probably decided before he turned 18, but couldn’t get it ’til then and until he moved out of the house.  He went big and a little eccentric–a phrase written in elvish across his chest.  Elvish–like from Lord of the Rings.  I would be lying if I said I loved it or even agreed it was the right move at his age…but that’s not the point.   I know he felt judged, he felt my disapproval.    He is such a great kid and I know that he cares and, like most kids, strongly desires the approval and acceptance of his parents.    What he got instead, was disappointment and disapproval…judgment.  I was wrong.

So….GRACE.  Believe the best in others.  Accept and love without question. Do not place your beliefs and expectations onto someone else to see if they “measure up”.

For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought… Rom 12:3