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Bryan Adams-best balladeer EVER

Who didn’t love Kevin Costner’s Robin Hood?  and the memorable Bryan Adams tune that brought the story to it’s rewardingly, swooning end??  Go on, sing it with me if you know it….Don’t telllllll me, it’s not worth tryin fooorrrr….. can’t telllllllll me it’s not worth dyin forrrrrrr….. You know it’s true, dun dun dun, everything I dooooooo, dun dun dun, I do it forrrrr yooooouuuuuu!

Such a good song.  and a good movie.  Mary Elizabeth Mastrionotonio, or whatever her name is, had THE best hair.  If I didn’t have this weird “affliction” candidly written about here and here, I’d totally watch it again right now.  and then I’d probably watch it again. and again.  and then again, ff’ing to the “good” scenes…you know, the ones filled with strong love and longing emotions…hmm..  where was I?  sorry…back to the song.

Everything I Do.  Everything.  I do it for you (GOD).  Is it all for God?  I want my answer to be wholehearted YES.  The Message, a paraphrase of the Bible, says in Romans 12:1:

Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him.

all that regular stuff I do…you mean, I can offer that to God? and he will consider that worship?  Cool.  Worship is often a confusing word…how do I worship?  what does that look like?  I like the simplicity of that verse.

One definition of worship is ardent devotion or the expression of such devotion.   So I can express my love and worship for God by simply considering Him when I do EVERYTHING.  I’m on it.

feel sorry for me yet?

I’ve lost precious time to Mr. Flu.  Yes, constant sorrow.  I needed a little pick me up…

Shakespeare’s cool and smart and stuff

Yeah, I’m a literary snob.  Yeah, right. I read/watch Shakespeare…and love it.  I even understand some of it…I’d say about 2/3 to 3/4 of it.   Then I wax on poetically about the themes and symbolism.  (only in my head, thankfully!) Shakespeare may just be some dead white dude, but he knows his sh*t.   I pulled that outta 10 Things I Hate About You, a movie inspired by Shakespeare’s Taming of the Shrew.   I’m only a little embarrassed to admit this is one of my favorite movies…and it has a kickin’ soundtrack.

So here comes the part where I wax poetic…not really.   I just like it.  and I’m fairly certain that watching Shakespeare will keep me from getting Alzheimers.  Yeah, you heard me right.    You see, cuz my brain is SO active, translating what they are saying into American English, and then WISHING I could say stuff like that.   It’s just beautiful.  and sarcastic, and witty, and surprisingly full of sexual innuendo. So, it keeps my brain in shape…it’s just a bonus.

“I will speak daggers to her, but use none.”  Now, I probably would have said, “I’m gonna give her a piece of my mind”.    Hamlet’s words are infinitely better. “To be, or not to be?”  Did you know that Hamlet is contemplating whether or not to commit suicide?!   “Rich gifts wax poor when givers prove unkind.”  Good gifts don’t mean as much when the giver isn’t nice.   Even Ophelia has good lines.

Alas, no matter how I try, I just can’t form thoughts in the Shakespearean way.     I should’ve been born in England in the 1500’s, I guess.  For now, I’ll go on speaking Oklahoman English with a bit of Hicklish thrown in and dream in Shakespearean English.

Resolved…now what?

One more time I need to say, “I can’t wait till this Twilight movie loses some of it’s momentum!”  Two people at church tonight told me I “had to see Twilight!”…”you’d love it!”   Why!?  Why me?  What makes you think I would LOVE it!?  Once I just responded with a quiet smile and a nod…the second time, I mumbled and jabbered nonsense about “can’t”, “I’m weird”, “not being religious…etc” (I should’ve just smiled and nodded)  I just DON”T know how else to respond!   Just smile and wave, boys, just smile and wave.

Do I just hold my breath until it’s popularity fades, and the hype is over?  Then I starting thinking, what about the next one…the next popular movie/tv show that EVERYONE sees and loves.  “oh, it’s so good!”  “it’s love, and sweet, and romantic, and happy ending, and blah, blah, blah”” and “you’ll LOVE it!”

So, here’s my question.  What happens when you take a stand like this? Especially in a world where movies are such a huge part of our culture.  Everywhere I turn…”Did you see this one?”  “We’re going to see that one, wanna come?”  “I’m going to stay home tonight and watch that one—again!”    When you decide to “give up” something completely “normal”….it’s harder than, say…giving up drinking.  If I were tempted by alcohol, I’d just stop hanging out at the bars, right?  It’s seems much harder to avoid this temptation.   But, like the alcoholic can’t just have ONE drink, I can’t just watch one movie and walk away.

I have a sweet little girl at church in the class I serve in that would like nothing more than to tell me about each movie that she’s seen that weekend…scene by scene.  I have to redirect her every week.  Seriously, God, do you know about this?! And you allow it?!  Cut me some slack.  Please?

I have resolved…and this one’s not going to be easy.  Luckily, I’m not in it alone.


As a Christ follower, is it OK to participate in activities that are morally wrong, or at least morally questionable?   The easy answer to this question, is “of course not”.   Then, my next question is…is it OK to watch someone else participate in activities that are morally questionable or just downright wrong?  Even if they are only pretending or acting out situations? Please don’t make me make a list, and I hope you’re not just picturing sexual stuff in your mind. (for more reasons than one!)  This could go for anything from sexual sin, to gossip, lying, violence…that’s my short list–I’ll let you define for yourself what is “morally questionable or wrong”.

I really hate to pull out the old “WWJD”, but maybe that’s our best measuring stick.  High standard?  Sure.  Too high?  I don’t think so.  As Christ followers, we are not called to compromise, but to have the attitude of Christ–staying pure, considering our lives nothing apart from God.

You might have guessed already that I’m referring to TV and movies–a recurring theme here on this blog, I’m afraid.  Please understand, I’m not condemning anyone else for their own decisions, but only questioning and processing where I stand on this issue.

The word of God has lots to say about this.  2 Corinthians 7:1 says it like this:

Because we have these promises (that God is with us and for us), let us cleanse ourselves from everything that can defile our body or spirit. And let us work toward complete holiness out of reverence for God”.   (emphasis mine)

I don’t know about you, but that word everything hollers at me from the page.  It screams commitment, sacrifice, and purity, and it forces me to redefine what is acceptable for me to lay eyes on or put in my mind.  No doubt, what goes in affects the way I think and act.  Garbage in, garbage out.  How much do I care about protecting my spirit and reserving it completely for God?  It means everything to me.

I could read scripture and just lightly brush by some of the more “difficult” commands…but…that just wouldn’t be fair.  I think I would be missing out on some huge pieces of what God has in store for ME.  This is the obedience he has called ME to…not you, necessarily, but ME, definitely.


Ok, let me just say that I never thought I’d be writing a post about this book/movie.  Never.  I’ve avoided it.  Haven’t read the book, haven’t seen the movie.  Won’t. Can’t.  You have no idea.

Let me also say that this time last year, I would not have hesitated to become “involved’ with Twilight.  Actually, that’s not true. I would have hesitated, but then I would have done it anyway.  I can’t even explain to you how much I want to read or watch it.  I say “become involved” because that’s what I do…I don’t just watch.  I think some of you know what I mean by that…if you don’t, I don’t care to explain. sorry.

Today I was preparing a post for this blog about a song I love and watching a vid on a video sharing site. I saw in “related videos” a clip of this movie put to this very song I was enjoying.  My desire to click the play button was intense.   Curious to see the touching emotional love scenes b/t the 2 handsome people.  Curious to see if I would connect emotionally…knowing I probably would.  Thankfully, God’s word came to my mind  “each of you is tempted when you are dragged away by your own desire.  and desire gives birth to sin”  from James 1.

Now I am NOT saying that this movie is sin.  It may not be a problem for you.  I’m not judging.  Really, I’m not!  But, as I have said more than once on this very blog, this genre is a problem for me.  I know it makes me weird and possibly makes me look all fanatically religious and righteous when I avoid it.  That’s fine, I guess.  Obviously I don’t care what anyone else thinks about me….since I even mentioned it, right? Whatever.

All this to say that I’ll be really glad when the Twilight wave has passed.   The temptation is rough and until now I’ve been enduring it quietly.  Until now. You have no idea.

and yes, I just found the tool bar to change font color…and I’ve had this blog for a year…slow learner, I am…jeesh.

Satan’s not stoopid

Satan is not stupid…he’s evil, but not dumb.  When he tempts us (not if, but when) he knows where we’re weak.  I don’t believe he can read our thoughts, but he can certainly watch our actions.  He sees our weaknesses and does not hesitate to exploit them.

Beth Moore says it like this:

Satan never wastes a fiery dart by aiming at a spot covered by armor.  The bull’s-eye is located dead center in our inconsistency.  That’s where the enemy plans to bring us down.

Victory over sin and temptation in this world is NEVER accidental or coincidental.  It comes from careful strategic planning and CONSISTENCY!  Therefore, I must RESOLVE to avoid areas I know I’m weak.  I’ll give 2 examples–I have others–but I’m not writing a book today.

  • Avoiding movies and TV shows that focus on relationships (which is pretty much all of them) is a must for me.  I’m not going to dive into the reasons why, b/c I already have done that here and even as far back as here.   Except LOST (I make that one exception for better or for worse).–I know, I know, that flies in the face of “consistency”.
  • Also, I avoid catalogs and sales fliers and all other marketing attempts to make me think I need or want something.  Avoiding TV also helps me avoid commercials–bonus!   And I despise shopping, so that keeps me out of the dangerous mall.  But, I–like the rest of Western Culture–enjoy stuff that makes me comfortable, pretty, convenienced, etc., and I can very easily get “tricked” into thinking that I need that really cool trickling fountain for my bedroom that’s currently 40% off!  oh, yeah, I get sucked in easy.

A break in resolve in the tough areas of your life, will give Satan a foothold.  So consistency is necessary to protect yourself from those fiery darts.

What’s Your vomit?

Lucky with her cone

As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his foolishness. Prov. 26:11

Vomit eating is not Lucky’s problem (thank goodness!) , she just can’t stop licking her paw.  She licks and licks until it’s so sore she can’t walk on it…so, we make her wear the cone when we can’t watch her.  It actually makes for very good entertainment (which says alot about our family).  Bless her, she is quite clumsy when wearing the cone–always hitting walls, door frames, furniture….it would be sad if it weren’t so funny.

So, my point is…Do you ever do something continuously, even though it’s not good for you?   I’m still feeling the uncomfortable effects of eating too much due to the  post-holiday and Christmas dinner leftovers.  I know I’m eating more than I should–but it’s just SO good.

I’m about 3 months in on a movie and TV fast.  I wish I could say I’ve been faithful, but I haven’t.  But what I’ve discovered from my “slip-ups” has been invaluable, so I don’t feel too much guilt.   First of all, I know that a little bit of TV or just one movie, only makes me want more.  Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE and have LOVED movies–all kinds–my whole life.  I have just come to realize I am one of the weak willed women that 2 Tim 3:6 talks about.

They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over weak-willed women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desire. 2Tim 3:6

But, like a dog to its vomit, I have lingered in the living room, remote in hand, considering losing 2 hours in a story about made up and unrealistic relationships.  No harm, right?  I mean, EVERYONE watches movies, right? It’s not like I’m watching porn.  Just regular ol’ movies.  Seriously?! Yeah…seriously.  I feel like a freak.  A freak with an unspeakable,  unconventional addiction. I know most won’t understand, and that’s ok. I’ve posted on this subject before,  here.

But, it’s like a default mode for me–a habit…don’t have anything pressing to do–pop in a DVD or scan the channels for something good…  I guess it’ll just take a while to build a new habit and replace it with something  better for my mind.  So, I’ll continue running to my chair in my bedroom.   Reading through the Bible.  Learning more about God.  Listening to His voice instead of the voices of fantasy, adventure, romance, and sci-fi.    No more vomit for me.

So, what’s your vomit?

My last post…

No, not my last one!  I was just referencing the last thing I posted to my blog!  I know, whew! Actually, the thing before last since I was thinking about food all day yesterday….Although, I seriously considered ending this bloggity thing–it’s really hard to be transparent!  There’s a fine line between sharing when it might be beneficial for someone else, and over-sharing…I’m going to tread real close to that line, I just know it.  But, I know I’m not the only one who is affected by visual media in this way.  No way.

So, I wonder how many non-girls read my last post?  How many people now know that I struggle with being discontent in my relationships b/c of messages planted in my head by Hollywood?  I wish I were better with words so that I could say everything about this that I want to say.  God has been revealing truth to me about this issue for YEARS.  YEARS.  I’m so slow to learn.

I’ve thought before that romantic scenes in movies are my emotional porn.  If a scene in a movie has some dude really loving a girl–I’m mean really emotionally engaged with her, then I want to watch that scene over and over.  I can play it over in my head in a longing sort of way.   Yeah, I know it’s not healthy.  and I know it’s not reality.

You might (or might not) be thinking, but, Cari, aren’t you married?  Yes, I am.  But, I think that my expectations for emotional connection are way out of touch with reality.  My poor husband could never measure up.  This is not (by any stretch of the imagination) my only relationship issue, but it’s where God is working most intently right now in my life.

Am I the only one?

For girls only…

Unless you just want to delve into the inner workings of the female mind, I suggest you click here instead of reading on. 🙂  You’ve been warned.  You’re welcome, Justin. 🙂

I read a post this morning over at Virtuous Reality that made my heart stop.  I wanted to just copy and paste the whole thing over here, but I’ll link to it instead at the bottom and just touch on a couple of points.  I love this blog, b/c it’s about girls and combating the messages that the world sends to them.  (It’s actually a blog for teen girls) But, it’s everything God is teaching me about who I am,  who I am not, and why I struggle with the sin that I struggle with.

“Our world has built up human relationships as the ultimate goal for girls, but Biblically the ultimate relationship is always always Jesus. He’s the original White Knight riding in on His horse to save us (Revelation 19:11) and He is the only Faithful and True love who will satisfy.”

Ok, this sounds lovely, but really?  Can Jesus really satisfy the longing in my soul to be loved, cherished, desired?

“if you find that you are obsessed with the stories and dream of being swept off your feet by someone like Edward (from the Twilight books), you probably need to step back from the books and spend some time pursuing the Lover of your soul who died so that you could truly live. We settle much too easily for what the world has to offer and miss out on the one thrilling relationship that we were made for.”

The world has trained girls/women, ME, to think that the fantasy of stories from books, movies and TV is somehow linked to the reality of real world relationships.  Why is it that girls LOVE chick flicks and TV shows with romance?? Why??  Because we are relational.  That’s the way God designed us.  and because girls need to know that somebody thinks we are beautiful.  That somebody loves us, accepts us, completes us, takes care of us, protects us, stands up for us.  We’re empty, scared, and vulnerable without that somebody.

Well, correct me if I’m wrong and you do have this perfect man, but I’m thinkin’ that my Jesus is the ONLY one who could ever fill these shoes.  So for now, for me, ALL other influences must be silenced so that I can hear my  Jesus saying, “Cari, you’re beautiful.  Cari, you are completely loved and accepted. Cari, I will defend you, protect you, and never leave you.”  Cari, you are special to me and I’m so proud of you.”  “Cari, nobody will ever separate me from you. I will always be there for you and always, always be EVERYTHING you need.”

Nothing else will satisfy my desire to be loved, cherished, and desired.